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OkieTiger said: ↑

i believe that story.

because i would not have that word in my vows either. the judge handed me the paper to read so i would know what the vows were and i just looked at him and said "take out the word obey". you would think that would have given greenie a hint. :hihi:

and i got married wearing black.:grin:
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:huh:

Oh, now I get it. :lol:

LSUTiga, Jan 26, 2008

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Damn skippy...keep em barefoot and pregnant:thumb:

YEEEEEEEEEEEEEE HAWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!:hihi:

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The 2008 Version of the Good Wife's Guide found on MSN

http://men.msn.com/guides/10best/article.aspx?cp-documentid=6071665&GT1=10821

1) Take care of yourself. Turns out that the best thing you can do for your husband is also good for you. Eat healthy foods, maintain good grooming, and exercise regularly. You'll look and feel better, and you'll continue to be the vibrant and attractive woman he fell in love with, no matter your age.

2) Say thank you, often
When researchers ask men what they want from their wives, appreciation always makes the list. Everyone likes to be appreciated, so remember to notice the things your husband does—for you, for the kids, for the house—and thank him. You'll put a smile on his face and a little joy in his heart.

3) Keep the romance alive
When was the last time you planned a romantic interlude with your husband? If you can't remember, you're way overdue. Be affectionate, write love notes, give him a backrub, plan a date, and initiate sexual play. Remind him that you still find him attractive.

4) Let him have "guy time"
Everyone needs time for themselves—to relax, enjoy a hobby, or socialize with friends. If your husband loves football and you don't, don’t bug him about it. Encourage him to cultivate friendships with other men. He'll enjoy the companionship. Studies show that people with friends tend to live longer, healthier lives.

5) Make your husband a priority
With the everyday stresses of work, home, and kids, it's easy to take your husband for granted. Make time for the two of you to reconnect on a regular basis. Take an interest in his work and hobbies. Let him know he's important to you.

6) Don't try to change him
Are you outgoing, but your husband is shy? Do you like a clean house, but he leaves towels on the floor? Behavioral experts say you can't change others, you can only change yourself and how you react—so look for ways other than nagging to handle these situations. Compromise on social activities by making them shorter, or go by yourself. Place a laundry basket in the bathroom. And when he attends a party or puts dirty towels in their proper place, thank him. Positive reinforcement beats nagging every time.

7) Don’t make him guess—tell him what you want
It's easy to assume that the person who lives with you every day also knows you well enough to know what you want. Not true. Most of us view the world through our own needs and desires, so don't be surprised if your husband thinks that what you want is what he would want. If you want something specific—advice, a hug, or a red sweater for your birthday—let him know.

8) Cultivate friends and interests outside your marriage
Once you’re married, it's easy to shrink your social network to revolve around your husband. But no one person can meet all your needs, and it’s too much to expect your husband to be your partner, your lover, AND your best girlfriend. Make time for friendships outside your marriage. You'll have more fun and bring new energy to your relationship.

9) Let free time be free
Just as you need time to relax and unwind, so does your husband. He may not define it the way you do, though; while your idea of relaxing after work may be talking over a glass of wine, he may enjoy being quiet for awhile, reading the newspaper, or watching TV. Find a compromise so both your needs are met. And give him time to recharge by not over-scheduling weekends with home projects and shopping.

10) Believe in your husband, and let him know it
Men can display a lot of bravado, but like us they sometimes struggle with low self-confidence and feelings of failure. And because men approach the world as competitors, they sometimes end up feeling like losers. When he comes home, your husband needs to know that the person he values most in the world believes in him—especially when he doesn't believe in himself.
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now, if only we could combine the 1955 version and the 2008 version :grin:

Bayou Bengal11, Jan 28, 2008

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Bayou Bengal11 said: ↑

now, if only we could combine the 1955 version and the 2008 version :grin:
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Yea...don't count on it. :hihi:

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Bayou Bengal11 said: ↑

now, if only we could combine the 1955 version and the 2008 version :grin:
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Frankly, the 2008 version wasn't really all that much more progressive.

For the record, I also would NOT have "obey" in my marriage vows.

And I do think the way that women have changed has affected the divorce rate. I won't put up with half of the caveman stuff my mom does for my dad. I married a man when he was 31 years old and had lived on his own since he was 18. Please...

The first time that my husband told me he didn't like the way I did laundry (yes, he said that) and then proceeded to refold the clothes I'd put in his dresser drawers was the last time I did his laundry. It can now pile up to the ceiling in our closet (on his side, of course), but I'm not doing it. I do my laundry, along with that of our two daughters.

Now, I like to cook, so he's luckier than many other guys in our age group whose wives never learned to do that! I can make him a good meal--but I don't cook on Friday nights--ever.

But seriously, back to 2008: I work full time and so does my husband. He is terrific because he isn't a caveman and helps out with our two daughters tremendously. But I can't cater to "his" needs because I have my own set of needs, too. Besides, this week is the third week in a ROW when he'll be in New York for the entire work week. That's when my life becomes that of a working, single mom--that's just not any fun, I can tell you that.

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StaceyO said: ↑

Frankly, the 2008 version wasn't really all that much more progressive.
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Maybe I should have said that when I wrote it... I just thought it was funny how it basically said the same things while trying to be more pc for today's woman.

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TigerFanNTenn said: ↑

Maybe I should have said that when I wrote it... I just thought it was funny how it basically said the same things while trying to be more pc for today's woman.
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Interestingly enough, there was a link there for the flipside article for husbands. Why did they have a woman write the wife's guide and a man write the husband's guide? Wouldn't it have been more apropos or at least more amusing to have it the other way around?

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maintain good grooming..
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I'm glad they added this one. Very important that the lawn is mowed and the hedges are trimmed regularly. :thumb:

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StaceyO said: ↑

Frankly, the 2008 version wasn't really all that much more progressive.

For the record, I also would NOT have "obey" in my marriage vows.

And I do think the way that women have changed has affected the divorce rate. I won't put up with half of the caveman stuff my mom does for my dad. I married a man when he was 31 years old and had lived on his own since he was 18. Please...

The first time that my husband told me he didn't like the way I did laundry (yes, he said that) and then proceeded to refold the clothes I'd put in his dresser drawers was the last time I did his laundry. It can now pile up to the ceiling in our closet (on his side, of course), but I'm not doing it. I do my laundry, along with that of our two daughters.

Now, I like to cook, so he's luckier than many other guys in our age group whose wives never learned to do that! I can make him a good meal--but I don't cook on Friday nights--ever.

But seriously, back to 2008: I work full time and so does my husband. He is terrific because he isn't a caveman and helps out with our two daughters tremendously. But I can't cater to "his" needs because I have my own set of needs, too. Besides, this week is the third week in a ROW when he'll be in New York for the entire work week. That's when my life becomes that of a working, single mom--that's just not any fun, I can tell you that.
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Sounds kinda childish dont ya think??? What is wrong with a guy telling you what he likes??? Im sure there is something he does for you the way you told him you like it, no??

Just saying...there are things that i do that i do my way....when i do it for my wife, i do it the way she told me she likes it. Make sense???

btw...I do realize what i just started with this post.... Im sorta :insane:

Bayou Bengal11, Jan 28, 2008

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