Oh for fuck's sake... Mods I apologize. Though this doesn't quite qualify as a derail, we really aren't talking his recruitment. I'm done with the topic as its being discussed. lsu_dane, if I offended you based on your family history, that was not my intention and I apologize to you as well.
I'm really not trying to be unsympathetic to his mom's illness. I suppose we don't really know what his relationship is with his mom. Some people truly need to get away from home when they're able to, but I have no idea what his situation is. To explain my perspective on the issue of him "owing" his mother for giving birth to him and raising him: my husband was given that guilt trip his entire life by his mother. "Pay for my gas on the Mobil card because I've sacrificed so much by raising you."/"Buy me a new bed, TV, car, etc. because I sacrificed so much by raising you."/"Pay my electric bill because I sacrificed so much by raising you." Do you get the picture on why I was turned off by the thought that a child "owes" their parent anything simply because that child was born? Some children win the parent lottery and others end up with the short end of the stick. The kids with good parents usually aren't told that they "owe" their parents anything. But many times, children with bad parents feel that way because that's what their parents tell them. My daughters owe me nothing. I give and give and give to them and for them. But in return, they are the light of my life. That is all I need in return. I can't imagine telling them they owe me because I sacrifice for them. That's crazy. That is all that I meant when I wrote that no child owes a parent. If Clark is very close to his mom, he may, indeed, feel that he wants to stay close to her. And if he does, I would not blame him one bit. I also don't blame his mom for wanting him near, whether she is sick or not. I know it has to be hard to watch your child go far from home when they are 18, and being sick would make that heartache even worse. So, not in particular to Clark's case, I loathe the idea that a child owes a parent. My mother-in-law played that card all too often and has made my husband miserable--even to this day in his mid 40's (and she was a shitty parent.)
I wasn't offended at all. You don't have to apologize to me for anything. We both are making arguments about a topic on a forum. Sometimes I play devil's advocate because I enjoy stirring the pot, sometimes I make posts because I think people aren't looking at situations right. Either way, you didn't nothing wrong for arguing your side even if I don't agree with it. Geaux Tigers.
I think everybody looks at situations differently due to their upbringing / environment. In the case of Clark we don't know if his mom is saying he "owes" her or not. She's asked fans to make him feel wanted at OU but we don't even know the context as to why she did that. Maybe he said he didn't feel like OU wanted him and she did it to prove to him they did. We both read about the situation and feel differently. I respect that. The only thing that bothered me was how some people were making it sound like she was using her sickness as a reason for him to stay and she was wrong for doing that. I think if she is as sick as has been rumored it is a very big factor. I guess I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt right now. If after it's all said and done he picks OU and it gets out that she doesn't have a serious illness, I'll be the first person with a pitchfork.
Not sure if this changes anything but his brother who plays basketball for OSU was arrested for a second time in the last couple of months and was booted from the team today.
