question. Man and woman have child, relationship doesn't work out, they go to court and man is awarded visitation, man disappears, 2 years later man shows up, go to court again and is awarded visitation, man disappears again. Man doesn't call or contact child for 5 years. Then shows up on doorstep wanting to see child. What should the woman do, child by the way doesn't want to see man.
First be more selective who she opens her legs for and practice safe sex when she does. Since that's out of the question, she is screwed because although a shot bag he does have parental rights awarded by the state.
It should always be what is in the best interest of the child. Child may not want to see the father and depending on the age, it's understandable but I don't think the father can be denied legal access to a child he has twice earned visitation with. If he still holds visitation rights, if she denies him, she could find herself in contempt. Bad move. The mother can go to court and attempt to terminate his parental rights but in the long run I don't think that helps. Perhaps some family counseling without dad would be a good place to start. If dad would also agree to individual counseling to start with the promise of counseling together somewhere down the line, maybe that's a carrot worth dangling. He may be a shit of a dad but mom can be the hero here by supporting a good relationship between father and daughter. We each only get one natural parent. Maybe he's changed or turned things around. I suppose HE could have wrapped that salami up too.....right? The responsibility falls on both and frankly, both genders can be shitty OR great parents whether the relationship works out or not.
Even if he disappeared with no contact for 5 years? I can guarantee you he hasn't changed. Even before when he was awarded visitation he saw her twice. No letters no phone calls, nothing.
Unfortunately 1st is age of the child? Next is all these vanishing acts need to be documented. Is the visitation supervised? I'm not sure if I'm the mom I wouldn't say law be damned I'm not letting my child go with this guy alone. Best advice, get a lawyer, a good one.
Kid is 11. Wants nothing to do with him because she doesn't know him. All the times he has disappeared are documented. He showed up at the front door and my wife told him to pay child support and slammed the door on his face. Kid saw him coming up and instantly hid without telling her shit.
Tell him to stay away or face a restraining order. Also tell him if he wants visits, to seek advice from an attorney. Seems he earned that response as he really should respect his daughters wishes. Sorry to even hear this, really. See an attorney anyways. Most give a free consult for the first time through the door. I'd see as many free advisers as it took till I got matching answers from at least 2. Best to know where you stand legally to encourage a proper course. Best of luck to the little girl. This is drama she had no hand in and certainly does not deserve.
My sister had a kid with a guy 12 years ago. He popped up occasionally and paid child support once or twice a year. She didn't push the issue on payments because she remarried and he was never around. Two days before Christmas, the father's mom asked to take my nephew to a movie. While there, the father came in with an out of state court order for custody and dragged the kid back to his house in Tennessee. He will not let my nephew contact his mother. There has also been a sudden rash of calls to CPS reporting my sister for abuse (wonder who is making those?).
For sure need to see an attorney, I think by 11 she should be able to state her own case, if not the judge will surely listen. I'm with @CajunlostinCali so sad that this is even taking place. Is this dude local? I will be in the area next week. I can tune him up for ya if need be
